Hi Sandra ditto to everything that,s already has been said Try not be too sad just see it as another door opening for
you and your hubby
Enjoy your rest
Love and Hugs Anne xxxxxxxx
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Posts: 554 (03/07/2008 13:37:29) |
Sandra,
I think you have been remarkable to have managed to do what you have so far,please don't feel so sad,you have done so much more than many people can cope with. I think you should have special time with your hubby to relax and enjoy your life.Your mum and dad wouldn't want you to have done so much for them,if they were okay,they would tell you that.Now its your turn,so enjoy! Love and lots of hugs..... x x x |
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Posts: 277 (03/07/2008 13:39:42) |
Ooohh Sandra, I know exactly how you are feeling, but don't blame yourself. Reading of your plight brought tears to my eyes and I am sending a great big
hug. Hope you are feeling better soon.
Ann x |
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Posts: 434 (03/07/2008 14:20:41) |
i am so sorry. I understand, my mum and dad had to go through the same thing with dads parents and i know how difficult it is.
I will be thinking of you, you have done your best, so don't feel bad, hard i know! Love and prayers, julie xxx |
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Posts: 7903 (03/07/2008 14:26:06) |
Sandra, you have done your best, no one could expect you to put up with being treated the way your mum is treating you! You have, in fact, done more than most
people would.
I will rememebr you in my prayers. Paula x |
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Posts: 6975 (03/07/2008 14:52:27) |
Sandra I do hope you are feeling better about it all today. As everyone else has already said, you have absolutely nothing to reproach yourself for at
all....in fact you are a saint and you have made the right decision for your mum and for yourself too, take care, Denise XXX
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Posts: 4894 (03/07/2008 15:00:12) |
I can only add my best wishes to you as everyone has said what I think.
Take care hun, Nina x |
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Posts: 770 (03/07/2008 16:00:49) |
My mother had Alzheimer's and was looked after by her sister until Aunt could no longer cope. I felt very guilty about not doing anything practical, and I
think you are an angel to have done so much - you have truly earned your rest and I can't express my admiration sufficiently. Your mother now needs
professional care from those who are emotionally detached: you have done the right thing, and the only kind thing possible.
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Posts: 2018 (03/07/2008 18:50:12) |
Sandra I am sad that you are feeling bad about the decision you have made. You really shouldn't, you have worked so hard for so
long looking after both of your parents. It is never easy caring for elderly people, especially those with dementia. It is even harder when the people you
are caring for are your parents as you remember the times when they were strong and capable and always made you feel safe. You have been brilliant with them
but you need to be able to recognise when the time comes to take a step back and let someone else take over. Please, please don't feel bad about your
decision - I am full of admiration for you and the way you have coped.
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Posts: 1874 (03/07/2008 19:25:44) |
Sandra, im so sorry you are going though this, but dont feel bad i think you are a very strong person, it takes guts to admit that you are finding it hard to
cope, i think you are doing the right think for everyone,
Nicxx |
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Posts: 949 (03/07/2008 21:21:28) |
I know where you are at the moment sweetheart, please don't feel bad about yourself, you deserve some respite.
Thinking of you Love Jan x |
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golden oldie cass |
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Posts: 524 (03/07/2008 23:20:40) |
sweetheart stop hurting yourself. i spent a long time working with folk like your mum and believe me, i know what hard work it is. we never ever condemned
relatives when they put thier loved one in our care as they mostly had had years of trying to do everything alone. from now on concentrate on yourself and your
family. as long as you stay in contact and still show her love no matter what, it will be fine. and keep your sence of humour, there will be times when you
will need it!!!
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Posts: 4270 (07/07/2008 15:43:48) |
Oh Sandra, don't knock yourself!!!! You've done more than a lot of people do; it's the right thing, and she will be happier there.
Enjoy (if you can!!! with your back!) your holidays, and come back really refreshed!!! Thinking of you, Doreen x |
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Posts: 2969 (07/07/2008 16:06:39) |
I agree with what everyone else has said Sandra. You have been a loyal loving devoted Daughter, please dont feel bad about it, just treasure the time you do
have with your parents, and visit mum as often as you can.
Do xx |
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Posts: 1871 (07/07/2008 16:41:46) |
Please don't feel bad, I had to do the same with my Mum - she had done home dialysis for years and then had a stroke so couldn't do it herself and was
also totally immobile. She had been in hospital for 6 months while we found a home who were willing to do the dialysis. They tok such good care of her and for
the first time in years I felt i could really relax as she just seemed to lurch from one crisis to another. You are doing this through love and making sure
that your Mum is safe and well cared for. Hugs to you both.
Love Janny x |
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Posts: 756 (07/07/2008 17:36:52) |
I totally agree with what everyone has already said. You have absolutely no reason at all to feel guilty, and you have done the right thing. You're not
Superwoman are you? Your Mum now needs professional help, and you need to get your own life back on track. You've been a first class daughter, and no-one
could ask for more.
Luv, Sue xx |
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Posts: 5341 (07/07/2008 18:06:06) |
every thing seems to have been said only one thing left for me to do is send you one big hug i do so feel for you
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Posts: 5925 (15/10/2011 20:15:45) |
There's not much I can add to what's already been said Sandra, guilt is so destructive and I'm sure if your mum did not have her condition she
would want you to have a better quality of life. Right now she's where she can be cared for 24/7 without mishap, you gave her all the care you could all
these years.
Take some time out to be with your family and become yourself again. Yes a good sense of humour and frequent visits should help both of you. Please don't feel sad, enjoy the time you now have. Love EuniceX |
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Posts: 6196 (07/07/2008 18:38:16) |
Thinking of you Sandra. You have been so wonderful with your parents and I admire you greatly. It's only because of your love for them that you feel like
you do. You have done so much more than others might have been able to do, but there is a limit to everything. You have only done what is best for all
concerned, so please try not to beat yourself up for it. Please try to relax a little when you can, and cherish yourself for a change. You deserve it.
love and prayers, elaine xx |
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Don't feel sad Sandra.I was a carer for 25 years and found it
very rewarding.But Only managed to look after my own mother for 3 years before I had to give in and she went into a home.It is difficult when they are your
own.They will look after your mom and in her own way she will be happy.My thoughts are with you.
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