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Tina |
DEBATE Did we have a better childhood? |
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I know children have so much nowadays but are they really as happy as we were. I can remember lazy summer holidays playing with my friends over the common all
day, then going home for dinner in the evening. No one worried where you were, what you were doing, because you were with your friends and safe. We got fresh
air and exercise and just had fun. I used to swing on ropes over ponds, climb trees, walk for miles, pick gooseberries and plums and just lie on the grass with
my friends making shapes in the clouds. Such happy days really and we just had so much more freedom.
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sue09 |
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I definitly think we had a better childhood,todays children arent allowed to enjoy life like we did.I know our world has changed but how do we expect our
children to grow into well balanced adults when theyre not allowed to experience freedom,take risks and purely have fun. love sue xxx
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Ali G is in the house |
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Yes, yes unless i have my rose tinted glasses on. Only yesterday I was remembering being under the covers on a sunday night with a torch and radio listening to
luxembourg.
We got such simple pleasures and excitement without comitting crimes. I blame my generation, 60s /70s we were the first generation to stay at school but left without the 3 r's and the first generation to go back to work and indulge our children. Sorry if that upsets anybody but there might be some truth in it. Ali x |
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Robertson 111 |
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Definately. The street we grew up in was full of kids. Mum had to almost pin us to the breakfast table, we were so eager to get out to play. Looking at photos
of that time there was only one car parked on the street - now it's a fairly busy road. I feel so sorry for the wee ones who have to be confined to the
garden(if they get out at all). The young Mum across the road from my Mum has two wee ones and she has trouble trying to keep them in the garden but it's
just not safe for them. I'm sure we were a lot fitter than this electronic game generation too. Cowboys and Indians, tag, skipping, British Bulldog and
other such games kept us on the go. I've just had a lovely wee walk down memory lane, people who I haven't seen for years popped into my head - so
thanks for that Tina.
Dee x |
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Gluedot |
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Yes, I think we did have a better childhood. OK, so we didn't have computer games, etc., but it meant that we used our imaginations more which was much
more fun, and I like to think that we're all the better for it.
I remember going for walks with my Dad in the nearby woods, and he would point out the various plants and wildlife, etc. to me. We'd watch the frogspawn developing in the woodland pond and generally appreciate the wonders of nature. I also remember making sandcastles and mud pies, seeing my first seeds germinating in my own little bit of garden, making our own Christmas decorations, playing games at children's parties and playing with our pet rabbit (who ate all next door's vegetables!). What lovely innocent days they were. The children today seem to rely on bought toys to have fun, and can't seem to exist without them. Yes, I had my share of toys, but had the most fun playing with the most simple items (an old cardboard box could be any number of things!). When I became older, crime simply was not on the agenda because I'd been brought up to know right from wrong and to have certain values and standards. I was lucky that my parents cared enough to give me an excellent grounding for adult life and didn't just push me out onto the street to play as so many seem to do today. It seems to me that a lot of the faults today lie with parenting standards - some Mums and Dads just don't seem to care or have the time to supervise and educate their children properly. Having children brings with it responsibilities that many seem to shirk. I could go on, but I won't (you'll be pleased to know!). So, I'll get off my soap box for now. Sue xx |
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HazelR147 |
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I totally agree .. I would not want to be a child now for any money.. We had very very little when we were children but were well looked after clean and cared
for. We didn't need all these nhi tec things we were healthy because we played outdoors.
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julieb40 |
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Not sure really. my two boys aged 10 and nearly 14 definately have a better relationship with myself and dad than either of us did with our parents, which I
think is a sign of the times.
I think we are extremely lucky that they have as much freedom as I did as a child. Often they go out on a morning and only come in when hungry. Mobiles are great as we can keep in touch with them. We are in a fairly quiet village which is a godsend, they play loads of sports and take part in competitive sports as well. Nothing better than seeing all the kids playing football in the park. My youngest is on the autistic spectrum and all the older kids have always looked out for him. Yes they have the computer and games consoles and spend time on them but both have plenty of exercise and fresh air. On the other hand I do really feel for those who live in built up areas or busy areas and have to stay in gardens and parents have to take them everywhere. We did live in London for a long time and both children were born there and I know for a fact if we were still living there their lives would be completely different. Just thankful we made the decision to move when they were both young. |
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melchache |
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i would much rather have the sort of childhood that i had than todays children .i was so happy .we didnt go on holidays ,but we were never indoors.out playing
all day,going for picnics with just friends to a wood about three miles away,without mum and dad having to worry about where and who we were with.home for
dinner then bath and bed.we were certainly healthier than todays kids.
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Sandra Carms |
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I really enjoyed my childhood. Out all day playing with friends, taking a picnic and some bottles of pop or water and coming home at suppertime. For 4 years
we lived a mile from the beach and a gang of us would either cycle or walk there and spend the days swimming, fishing in the rock pools and what a lovely time
we had. It's a shame that children can't do this any more but I suppose it's a sign of the times.
Was only talking with my Brother this am about the good times we had when we were young. Sandra |
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Cdteach |
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Yes it was better, like others I played out, went to friends houses, belonged to brownies then guides and my brother was a cub and scout. Mum even let me go to
the local pool a few times each holiday on my own. We had more imagination and creativity to amuse ourselves, without having to spend money we didn't have,
we weren't vandals and didn't get into trouble. We only got toys at christmas or on birthdays and didn't moan about it. Dad took us out on sundays
to give mum a break and to spend what we now call quality time with us. We could safely play in the street and go places on buses and the tube. I wouldn't
want to be a child now but then as with everything else some parents are better than others some take their children out while others throw them out or refuse
to let them out and they spend all day sitting with DVD's or playstations etc.
Jan |
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m3bfs |
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Ali G is in the house wrote: I agree with you there about the 60/70's but what i wonder about now is that if that is/was the case, when today's kids get to our age or older what will life be like for them. I suppose in some ways we're lucky we still do have 'memories' of good behaviour, neighbourlyness (?) but kids today are (or a lot seem to be) growing up isolated from others so no chance of building neighbourly communities. Hope this makes sense having trouble finding the words to say what i want. Love and hugs take care Teejay x |
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Glitzzy |
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I agree with you all,I have so many happy memories of a childhood,where we were very easy to please,enjoyed so much,grass was so green,trees were so tall and
swayed in the wind,sky so blue beautiful clouds,I can remember trying to find shapes in them,we made up so many new games,does make you wonder what happened to
change it all,do agree with Ali,we did try to give our children more than we had,but I think in hindsight we already had the best.
Love Maureen x |
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Tina |
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Oh and at winter, sleding in the snow on our home made sleds
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Carolynleah |
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Probably every generation thinks their childhood was better - but I did enjoy my childhood, mum was always home for us, we had freedom but knew she was there
if we needed her. I was lucky when my children were small, I only worked weekends/evenings so was home for my children too - I know mums these days need to
work but I do feel sad for the children who can't have the freedom mine had, and I had before them. So many go to child minders, nurseries, holiday clubs
- these can be great, but for me nothing beats the freedom of just messing about at home, in the garden, the local woods etc.
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murchison |
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i had a shocking childhood because a lot of help was not around if you had epilepsy in the 50s and because no school would take because of the amount of fits i
had a day i had to go into a covent and from the age of 5 i was ill treated by nuns i wont bore you with my horror stories but today there is so much help i
would have lived at home i would not have lived through my horrors that are still with me today so yes i would have had a better childhhood today
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m3bfs |
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if we had a better childhood than our kids, did our parents have a better childhood than us and so on, or were we the lucky ones that had it all.
love and hugs take care Teejay x |
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CarolPG |
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Like most everyone else, I played outside with friends, fell off things I shouldn't have been climbing in the first place, have scarred knees to show from
learning to ride my bike, etc............. the difference is we were allowed to be children. These days people treat their kids as adults and so they seem to
want what adults want and act like adults. Trouble is they don't grow into adulthood in their own right and learn everything that being an adult means.
Facts of life? Never heard of it until we had some naff film at school when I was 12......... staying out late? Not until I was 14 (10.30 was late and only on Mondays when it was Youth Club night)........ Pocket money was just enough for some sweets and Saturday morning pictures and maybe one magazine - pennies - not pounds. I would hate to be a child now. C xx |
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june barker |
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i had a wonderful childhood and felt loved and wanted and never went without. i felt safe and i was happy. even happy at school and there was no such thing as
bullies and if there was it was soon sort out.
like you carol, i would hate to be a child today. love june b |
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wlpandiva |
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I think it was better because we were free to enjoy our childhood. We were more active, had less material things and more freedom. In a way I am so glad that I
am not a young parent at the moment. I would hate to have to make the decision to give my children the freedom they deserve or to keep them in and safe.
It's not a position I would wish to be in.
Beryl xx |
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janetannc |
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I enjoyed a lot more freedom in my childhood than children ever have now, and also more responsibility. I was taught the value of money and had to save for
things I wanted. I was a child both here and in Australia (we emigrated in 1952, when I was 6) and so I really did have long hot summers spent by the water, as
we lived very close to the sea.
I also enjoyed the attention of both parents, where so many of today's children come from broken homes. TV didn't reach our neck of the woods until I was 12, so Saturday morning at the cinema was our weekly treat and we walked the 2 miles home so we had the bus fare to buy sweets. We learned to enjoy reading and board games and a special treat was a trip to the drive-in theatre about once every 3 months. At school we weren't under the pressure children seem to have today. We sat in desks that faced the front, copied work from the blackboard (that we competed to clean at the end of a lesson) and we came out the other end able to spell properly without a spellchecker, add up in our heads, without a calculator and with a love of books and a generally decent education. We learned to respect our elders and NEVER call them by their Christian names unless prefixed by 'Aunty' or Uncle'. I'm old-fashioned, I know, and don't particularly understand or like the world I live in now. I feel sorry for today's children. Janet |
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sheran stone |
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Yes I think we did have a much better childhood than todays children, because there is 12 years between my two girls I have noticed the difference. When I was
young I like others would stay out all day and mum never worried, but when Isabel is out I am constantly texting her to see if she is ok, she calls me the
stalker
Sheran x |
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