Well I wouldn't pay £500.  However, as I have said before, when my second son got married they had a very small wedding and all the family paid for their own meals - I had no problem at all with that smiley: smile.  When Alex gets married in June, anyone who wants to come to the picnic afterwards can - bringing their own picnic smiley: laugh.  They want no presents, they just want family/friends to have fun with them.  I really don't like being asked to give money instead of a present, that makes me want to find something really horrible to give them smiley: laugh
Carolyn x