When we were courting we had 2 friends who we used to go out regularly with. We got married within a year of each other and She had everything going. About 6 bridesmaids and a matron of honour, a posh "do" and then they went off on a 2 week honeymoon. We were exactly the opposite. To start with Colin and I lived with my Nan , lie a lot of others did all those years ago, so we could save, but they went straight out a got a flat. Well I have to be honest I'd never seen anything like it, but they couldn't afford anything better. To start with, it was over a sweet shop, and they made sweets too, and there were mouse traps everywhere. Her kitchen was about 10 sq. feet, literally, you walked in the door the sink was on your left, with a draining board and that was it! It  smelt damp and musty and her bedroom walls were black with the damp. Ok,  so they were on their own, but how stupid to blow all their savings on a big splashy wedding, and then living in an absolute dump. To my mind it's all show.