My initial answer was going to be - how cheeky-certainly not  ..  but, it would depend on the circumstance. If it was very close family, and it was purely financial, then if the only way would be to ask the family to contribute, and this was in leiu of presents, then maybe I would. If it was an invitation, relative or not, that simply arrived in the post with no prior discussion, the definitely Not. Guess it all depends on who it is, what the circumstances are, and how you are asked. That's just me! xsmiley: eyes