Totally agree with what has already been said...but at the same time how differently this damned awful disease can affect people.
 My friend used to go twice a month to visit her Mum  ( she was in a "secure" nursing home, some miles away...big family, and they took it in turns, but Treena, (my friend) used to be in such a state...her mother,90+, would scream, swear like a trooper, and throw things at every visit......the nurses would eventually have to sedate her, it was so distressing for my friend , well all of the family. She passed away last year, and it was definitely a happy release for everyone, so Hazel, just remember while she's sleeping, she's safe in her dreams , whatever they may be...... x