Thanks for your replies. This really is a nice forum, as I said I have joined others but this one is the nicest and I keep coming back to it.( oh dear will probably be be banished from the others now)!!!!!!!!!!! There are so many of us with worries and fears these days and everyone has such busy lives but the folks on here seem to take the time to care, Nicky, I can't imagine how things have been for you, I nearly lost my husband but for you, well, I can only send my love and support.
I hope I can post more often and we can chat soon
Maureen