I think it's nice that her wishes were followed, but agree with Tina that a funeral is what brings the closure and helps people move on. I have been unable to attend a few funerals over the years and it didn't help me with the grieving process at all. When I have been able to go I've felt the whole book about me and that person has been finalised, if you get my meaning. I want my wishes to be listened to, but I want people to feel their relationships with me have been considered too. If my family and friends and their feelings were important to me in life so they should be in my death. Life is never about just us, but about our consideration of and interaction with others. I'd like my family and friends to feel as comfortable with our final farewell as I do, more comfortable to be honest. I don't, or may not, have to live with the consequences, but they would. My funeral will make more of a difference to how well they come to terms with my death than it will do to me so it's up to them. I want what they want and what they see fit. They have to live with how it is and the effect it has on them. I don't.