It's a tricky thing arranging a funeral that will suit everyone. On the one hand you want to respect the persons wishes but then again (I think) a funeral is more about the ones left behind and giving them a chance to say goodbye, celebrate a life etc.
A funeral does give closure, but is it the act of watching the coffin disappear behind the curtains that makes it final, or the singing of hymns. I do think it's possible to say goodbye without a church service (if they weren't the religious type) and more often than not closure (for me at least) comes at the wake when people start talking about the deceased and telling stories and having a laugh as well a cry. So maybe we don't need expensive depressing funerals, just a gathering of family and friends and a chance to put the full stop at the end on that chapter of life.

I do think most of us would make our wishes known and I hope we would have considered the feelings of our nearest and dearest and what's best for them - not just us.

Jan