I'm not religeous either, but my mum arranged her own funeral, hymns, prayers etc. and I wouldn't dare argue with her! A friend of our's had all jazz music at his funeral, and some of his funny emails( including one to God) were read out. Not sure the funeral director knew what to make of it, but it was so Peter!!
I think leaving a `Living Will` with instructions for ones funeral is a great idea. It takes a lot of pressure off those left behind.

Sue
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