Interesting reading people's views on this which are largely all the same............

I have no real problem not attending her funeral - let's face it, they are not exactly anyone's idea of a good day out - and am ok with saying my goodbye privately. I know there will be others who knew her though who will not be quite so happy.

Someone said that most people say goodbye at the bedside.............. I'm not sure that that's the case at all - I certainly didn't as I didn't get to see her at all whilst she was ill and I'm pretty sure that very few people apart from the immediate family perhaps are actually there when someone dies.

Knowing my SIL as I do (did), I have a feeling that a huge part of the reason for no-one attending is that she doesn't want anyone seeing her like that....... not that they'd see her of course but you get my drift. She hated being seen without her face on and not looking her best (which is why she wanted no-one seeing her when she was ill) and I think there is a HUGE part of her that wants people to remember her as she was and not as she became. Bless her - love her for that. I confess I would far rather remember her as she was the last time I saw her.

C xx