Sue I do feel for you and your daughter. I have been there so know what it is like albeit many years ago. I split from my first husband who then proceeded to bribe the children with money, treats new clothes and being taken away on holidays, knowing full well I couldn't do that. Luckily the children eventually saw through this and today they are in their 30's and they don't have anything to do with him. But for several years I had to endure hassles each month when they had to go and live with him. I do hope that things get sorted out and quite soon. Big Hugs to both of you.
Tricia