..... and make the decision of putting mum into permanent care. After 3 most horrendous days of mum's aggression and poor mobility, although mum was going
into respite for a week on saturday, I had to get her collected today for the few extra days as I feel I can no longer cope.
Yesterday, when getting her washed and dressed, she turned on me and then started sliding over the bathroom floor, so I was trying to hold her up and then she lifted her feet off the ground so I had her full weight, so I fell backwards hitting the small of my back on the toilet. although only 4'9", she is a size 20, so no light weight to hold alone. After that, she shouted abuse all day long, so I was totally frazzled and in a lot of pain with my back.
This morning, I got her into the bath fine, but like people with alzeihmers do, changed so quickly and started throwing water over me and whipping the wet flannel across my face. Then when I got her out of the bath she started struggling and because she was wet, we both ended up head first back into the bath1!!!!
I only laugh because it would make a fantastic comic strip but
the reality is my back went and mum still continued throwing things at me, biting me, etc.
In the end I asked the respite home to take her in early and spoke to social services to start proceedings to find residential care for her. I really feel so sad about it but know deep down I can cope no longer.
Dad for now will stay with us - he has problems and looks as if her may have to have an operation, so we have decided to get him through the next few months but then think it will be time for the same re him so we can get back our quality of life.
Please don't think bad of me, Sheenies but I needed to unload cus I've had such a bad day.
Sandra x
Yesterday, when getting her washed and dressed, she turned on me and then started sliding over the bathroom floor, so I was trying to hold her up and then she lifted her feet off the ground so I had her full weight, so I fell backwards hitting the small of my back on the toilet. although only 4'9", she is a size 20, so no light weight to hold alone. After that, she shouted abuse all day long, so I was totally frazzled and in a lot of pain with my back.
This morning, I got her into the bath fine, but like people with alzeihmers do, changed so quickly and started throwing water over me and whipping the wet flannel across my face. Then when I got her out of the bath she started struggling and because she was wet, we both ended up head first back into the bath1!!!!
I only laugh because it would make a fantastic comic strip but
the reality is my back went and mum still continued throwing things at me, biting me, etc.
In the end I asked the respite home to take her in early and spoke to social services to start proceedings to find residential care for her. I really feel so sad about it but know deep down I can cope no longer.
Dad for now will stay with us - he has problems and looks as if her may have to have an operation, so we have decided to get him through the next few months but then think it will be time for the same re him so we can get back our quality of life.
Please don't think bad of me, Sheenies but I needed to unload cus I've had such a bad day.
Sandra x
Hazel
